things i wish i knew as a first-time mom: pumping

Breastfeeding – I’ve heard so many times that it’s one of the most natural things in the world, but let’s be real, it can be downright challenging, especially in those early days. I remember struggling with it with my first which you can read about here. After you get over the hump of it being new, it really does feel so natural and easy. But then pumping? Well, let’s just say it added a whole new layer to the mix! As I’m getting ready to do it all once again with my second, I’m definitely going to take a more relaxed approach. I was so obsessed about having a big freezer stash – to the point where it probably hindered my milk supply. All in all, it is worth the effort to have some milk on hand for just in case.

Whether you’re exclusively pumping, fitting in a session once a day, or just pumping occasionally, I hope these tips I’ve picked up along the way will make your pumping experience a bit smoother. They’re not in any particular order – just little nuggets of wisdom from one mom to another. No fancy initials after my name here, just a fellow mom sharing what she’s learned through trial and error : ) 

Before we get into pumping, let’s talk about the newborn days. During those first few weeks, your body is regulating your milk supply – you leak a ton! Why drench your nursing pads when you can collect all of that liquid gold? Now is the time to collect, not pump as that can trick your body into thinking you’ve got multiples, which can lead to engorgement and over production, which can lead to things like mastitis. So those first few weeks are for collecting! Unless of course your baby is having issues latching and pumping is recommended to you by your doctor, midwife, or IBCLC/LC. In this situation, not pumping would hinder your supply.

Once your milk comes in, there is usually a lot of it! So no need to waste – create your freezer stash. Even if you choose to never introduce a bottle, there are so many benefits to having breast milk on hand! You could add it to your baby’s bath if they have eczema, put it on a diaper rash, use it on baby acne or cradle cap. The possibilities are endless!

How to collect milk during the newborn days:

The easiest way I found to do this is by using the haakaa and the elvie catch. The haakaa is an active way of collecting milk because it uses suction. The elvie catch is a passive way of collecting milk because it doesn’t have suction. It’s best to use the haakaa once your baby has already nursed. I didn’t do this routine while I was out and about, but if I was at home or a friend’s house, I would. I did this for several months until I stopped leaking. 

Here’s an example of what my routine would look like: 

If my baby latched on my right side, I would use the elvie catch on the left side to collect the let down while she nursed. When she was done with the right and moved onto the left, I would then attach the haakaa on the right (the side she already nursed from) to collect (suction) that let down. With the elvie catch and haakaa combined, I would get several ounces per feed. It all adds up! 

Why pump?

One of the reasons I started pumping was because I had the intent to go back to work. Then I decided not to, and then I went back once a week. I kept at it because I really liked the flexibility of knowing that I could be away from my baby for a few hours and she could take a bottle of my milk. Sometimes I needed some “me time,” a date night with my husband or work 9-5 once a week (If you’re a mama that will be going back to work, I highly recommend this book.) I developed a morning routine that I stuck with until she was about 7 or 8 months old and it helped me contribute to freezer stash I wanted.

The early morning hours are when your body makes the most amount of milk. During a typical nursing session, my baby would nurse on both sides. Since I was so engorged in the morning, she would only nurse on one side and be satisfied. Because I knew she would only eat on one side, I would use a haakaa on the opposite side to catch (suction) that let down. After she nursed, I would pump. I could easily get anywhere from 4-8oz from that morning routine!

Once she started sleeping through the night, I would pump after I put her to bed for the night (8/9pm) and before I went to bed (10/11pm.) That gave me a few more ounces. I only kept up this nightly pumping until she was about 4 or 5 months old.

Which pump should you choose?

When it comes to pumps, the Spectra reigns supreme in my opinion. Get the Spectra S1 over the S2 – the S1 comes with a battery pack, so you don’t need to be constantly plugged in, which is helpful if you don’t always have an outlet available to you. I’ve really liked the spectra! I tried using hands free pumps but I had a hard time centering my nipple and it just never worked for me. I also tried a manual hand pump and didn’t like that either. You just don’t know until you try! 

Check out these instagrams for pump reviews and tips: @onewiththepump, @bemybreastfriend, @pump_mama_pump, @teachingmotherhood, @lalactation, @pumpedupmama and @themilknest

Insurance Coverage

Take advantage of your insurance coverage for pumps. Most insurance plans cover the cost of a breast pump, along with supplies like storage bags and bottles. It’s a cost-effective option that can save you money in the long run. That’s how I got my spectra for free. Check out the website aeroflowbreastpumps.com.  

Flange Fit Matters

Don’t settle for the standard flanges that come with your pump. Your average woman rarely fits the standard sizes! Seeing a lactation consultant or using resources like pumpables.com can help you find the right flange size for your body. You can also order a ruler on Amazon. Your size will fluctuate throughout your whole pumping/nursing journey. If you notice a drop in output, or are experiencing pain, it could be a sign that your flange size needs adjusting. 

Lube it up

Before a pumping session, I would always use a coconut oil spray to help with any friction. Once that ran out, I just poured some olive oil in a mason jar and used that, haha! When I applied it directly on my skin, it made pumping comfortable and painless. Keep a burp cloth with you because it can get messy.

Pumping bras

I didn’t have great pumping bras and usually just held it in place with my hands. Possible but not ideal! This time around I plan on investing in nursing and pumping bras. I will report back and edit this blog post after I put them to the test! After much research, I decided to settle on these:

Kindred Bravely, Mom cozy and Bravado.

Breast milk storage bags

After trying several different brands, I found 2 that I really loved. The other brands always had issues with ripping and leaking. 

My #1 brand is Kiinde. I really like how easy and simple the system is. They sell these screw top bags that you can freeze, thaw and feed your baby from. All in one – no more washing bottles! Only nipples. You can even pump directly into these bags if you want – I didn’t because my OCD wanted to know the exact ounces, haha! These bags never leaked. They are thicker than your average storage bag so I never had issues with them tearing. I highly recommend using these! The only thing I don’t like is that they don’t really freeze flat if you have more than 2oz in them. But it didn’t make it or break it for me because I have a deep freezer so I had the extra room. They have 3 different nipple flow sizes. I started with the slowest and never used the fastest.

I started giving my daughter 1 bottle every 2 days when she was about a month old. I pumped while my husband fed her and it was a great opportunity for them to bond. She never had any nipple confusion. By the time I was away from her for feeding(s) she was about 3 months old and took the bottle no problem!

My #2 brand is Nanobebe. If you choose to not use the Kiinde system for bottle feeding but just want some milk in your freezer, these are the bags to use. They look and function like a ziplock bag but are a thicker material than your average storage bag. I never had any issues with leaks or rips. They are so easy to store because they freeze flat! 

My routine for bagging milk:

I had plenty of storage bottles thanks to my insurance! After collecting or pumping, I would put that milk in a storage bottle and into the fridge. Once that milk was cold, I would pour it into a mason jar that I kept in the fridge. I would continue that all day, never mixing the warm milk with cold milk. Every 2 days I would bag the milk to freeze. I did this so I wasn’t constantly filling bags all day. I froze them in 2oz and 3oz bags. As she got older and drank more, I would then freeze in 4oz, 5oz, and 6oz bags. 

Tips for pumping away from your baby: 

Because breastfeeding is such an emotional, mental, and natural thing, pumping tends to make it not that way. Here are some tips to get a good pump in while you’re away from your baby.

The Sock hack

While pumping, I always wanted to watch and see how much my output was. I wish I would have known this hack. Placing a baby sock over each bottle while you’re pumping can help you avoid staring at your output constantly, which can play tricks on your mind and cause unnecessary stress. All of these things can lower your output. So put those socks on and look at pictures and videos of your baby instead. Let that oxytocin flow!

Stay Connected

Plan to bring along some of their clothes or blankets – it can be comforting. Having something with their scent nearby can help regulate your hormones and make the pumping experience a bit easier which will help with your output. 

Cleaning pump parts multiple times a day

If you’re pumping several times a day there are a few hacks to make clean up easier on you. If you’re on the go, get a pack of wipes like these to clean parts in between sessions. If you have a fridge available to you, put your parts in a ziplock bag and store them in the fridge until your next session. The only downside to that is that cold doesn’t help with milk production – you might want to invest in some heated vibrators. I got these and really liked them. I’m typically cold, so these helped warm me up during a session.

If you’ve made it this far, you can see that there is so much to pumping! It may not always be easy, but with the right knowledge and support, it can be a rewarding experience. I definitely think it’s worth the effort, which is why I plan to do it again this time around. It looks different for everyone, so there isn’t one way to do it – customize it to how you want it to be! I hope these tips and tricks can help you navigate the world of pumping with confidence and ease. Happy pumping!

Until next time ❤

things i wish i knew as a first-time mom: breastfeeding

I still remember like it was yesterday. Even thinking about it sometimes brings a tear to my eye. It was all so emotional. Why didn’t anyone warn me? I felt so unprepared. Why didn’t I read more about it? Why didn’t I ask more questions? Why WASN’T I prepared?

I was two days post-partum, trying to get the hang of nursing my newborn. My husband was wiping away my tears, and my lactation consultant was reassuring me that it would all get better with time. My daughter had an uneven palate, a recessed chin, and a cheek tie. Each latch was so painful! Looking back, I wish I could travel back in time and tell myself that it would, in fact, be okay, and every latch and every tear wouldn’t be for nothing. With the struggles that sometimes accompany breastfeeding, it might feel like trying to climb Mount Everest in flip flops, but let me tell you – with the right resources and support, it’s totally possible! Obviously, there are some rare exceptions where some mamas cannot, we’ll focus on the one’s who are just having trouble.

Before our little bundles of joy make their appearance, we’re bombarded with a deluge of information that comes in the form of advice, articles, books, and opinions. One aspect of birth that isn’t discussed nearly enough is nursing. Because there’s so much emphasis on getting the nursery ready, researching different brands of diapers and strollers, but breastfeeding is rarely mentioned. I believe that more discussion equals more preparation, so here’s my own list of things I wish I knew about nursing as a first-time mom. These aren’t in a specific order. I don’t have initials following my name, I’m not giving medical advice, I’m just a mom who is sharing what she’s learned from her experience : )

Find an IBCLC/LC:

  • I reached out to a local IBCLC and took a breastfeeding/pumping class. It was SO helpful, educational and gave me a great contact to reach out to for any questions I had. I highly recommend finding a breastfeeding class! I even learned a cool fact: when you hear a pain cry from your baby, your body will pump endorphins into your milk to help your baby! How amazing is that?!
  • Find an IBCLC who does home visits. I had one come when I was just 2 days post-partum and she was a tremendous help. She gave hands on help, some emotional support, identified any problems (like ties), and came up with solutions for them. She also checked in to make sure things were improving.

Find a Chiropractor who specializes in pregnancy and newborns:

  • I saw a chiropractor throughout my whole pregnancy – she is certified in the Webster Technique. I also got my newborn adjusted weekly. It helped so much with breastfeeding and made a huge difference. One day, I could only nurse my daughter in a football hold on one side because she had trouble latching when I tried in a cradle position. After her adjustment, she was able to nurse normally!

Reach out to a trusted friend or family member who has breastfed:

  • Don’t be afraid to ask for help from someone who has breastfed before. Choose a close friend or someone you trust and feel comfortable with. Breastfeeding is such an intimate thing and it can be embarrassing for someone to see your nakedness, but swallow the uncomfortable feeling and let that person help you! Of course, there are a few people you absolutely do not want to show your boobs to and that’s okay! I had a close friend help me and I am so glad I did! I felt shy, but after she helped me, I felt so much more confident!

The beginning is painful:

  • Nursing at the beginning can be extremely uncomfortable and painful! It often lasts two weeks and fades with time. For me, it was painful the first 2 months (probably that long because I’m sensitive to pain and she had a few oral issues.) It feels so unnatural at the beginning but before you know it, it’ll be so natural. You’ll be amazed at how awesome God is and how His creation of the human body is perfect! Just cut yourself some slack – you’re both learning something new!
  • Your boobs will feel uncomfortable, so you can use heat before a feed and cold after. These might help because you can put them in the fridge or microwave.
  • Don’t use lanolin as it can lead to contact dermatitis (rash on babies face), which is what my daughter got when I used it. Once I switched, she never had a rash again. I highly recommend Earth mamas organic nipple butter.
  • Get Silverette cups because I have heard wonderful things and I wish I had them. They also have other brands that are cheaper.

You’ll leak milk:

  • Your boobs will leak so don’t let all that milk go to waste! I highly recommend these. This is a passive (no suction) way of collecting your milk. I used the Haakaa (active/suction) on the side that my daughter had already nursed on.
  • When you are out and about and not wearing milk collectors, I really liked the disposable pads. I had the organic cotton ones but I found that my nipples would dry and stick to them and it hurt to pull them off (especially at the beginning.) I used them overnight as well!

Establish a good supply:

  • Nurse every 2-3 hours in the beginning no matter what! This can fluctuate depending on how much your baby weighs at birth. Once they surpass their birth weight, it’s okay to let them sleep in 4-5 hour stretches.
  • You always start on the side you left off on. For example, if you nurse on the right side and then the left, the next time you nurse you would start on the left. They say the first side is dinner, and the second side is dessert, haha! Or if your baby only eats on one side per feed, it would be like this: ate on left, next time right, next time left, etc. I often used a hairband or a ring to help me remember which side I left off on. You can also buy this cool cup. You can also track on an app which is what I did for the first month.
  • Drink a ton of water because it helps with your supply. Try to drink 6-8oz every time you nurse. Always have snacks nearby! You will probably get hungry. Eating well is very important! Nursing makes most hungry and thirsty. I find that it helps to drink electrolytes too (I like body armor, but it is pretty sugary, so electrolyte mixes like LMNT, Redmond’s or coconut water are healthier options). This book is a wonderful guide to eating well post-partum.
  • I really enjoyed BOOBIE bars and I really noticed a higher output when I pumped! I also ate oatmeal daily and that is supposed to help increase your supply. My doula gave me a delicious lactation cookie recipe – I noticed a difference eating these too. Who doesn’t love a sweet treat?
  • Stay away from Fenugreek. It is a common and popular ingredient used in lactation foods and beverages. Fenugreek can have a very positive effect (increase your supply) or a very negative effect (plummet your supply). It’s best to stay away since everyone responds differently.
  • Around 3 to 4 months, your supply will start regulating and the feeling of engorgement goes away for the most part. I got so scared when this happened to me! I thought I was losing my supply, and our journey was coming to an end. This is completely normal. At this point, I finally felt like nursing had become second nature. If your baby is acting normal and seems satisfied, don’t sweat it! Stress can be detrimental to your milk supply.

The Newborn Days:

  • Be on the lookout for mastitis but don’t let it make you anxious. Monitor your temp and symptoms (chills, hot boobs, feeling lumps, redness) cause you’ll need to get in touch with your doctor or midwife. Not everyone gets this (I didn’t) but it is best to treat it right away rather than letting it fester. There are many supplements you can take to prevent this too, such as Sunflower Lecithin. Legendairy is a great brand.
  • Especially the first week, just focus on skin to skin and breastfeeding and resting. We were so excited to show her off to all our friends and family. I did nurse her every 2 hours but I wish that we didn’t have as many visitors the first week or two so I could just be shirtless, cuddling with my baby and practicing latching. I think it would have helped things a ton in the beginning (she didn’t latch until she was 2 days old but that’s another story!)
  • I had 2 different kinds of nursing pillows and in the end, they made things so much more difficult for me. When I spent most of my time in bed the first week, I used the Boppy under my knees. Regular pillows did the trick just fine! So don’t feel bad if its not making a difference. They might be helpful to you, but they might not. You really don’t know until you try.
  • Buy several comfortable nursing friendly outfits for out and home. Here’s one of my favorites for home. These tank tops were great for going out.
  • The first week, the only thing I wore on top were nursing camis. I highly suggest getting 5-10 of them. Now is not the time to wear a bra! You want what you wear on top to be loose fitting, but can still hold things together a bit. If I wasn’t wearing a cami, I wore a loose fitting nursing bra like this.  

Other Misc things for you:

  • When you’re ready to venture out and wear a bra, I highly recommend getting a non-nursing bra that is stretchy enough to pull down. No need to have two wardrobes of bras for pre and post nursing. I love these, but anything similar will do!
  • If you will be in public often, I highly recommend finding a nursing cover that you like. Some of them get so hot and stuffy and make life difficult. I love the we are amma one (it’s $$$ but I love it!)  
  • Ina May’s Guide to Breastfeeding. There’s a lot when it comes to nursing and being a first-time mom, sometimes you aren’t even sure what questions to ask. For example, I wish I knew to ask questions like: what is engorgement? What is a letdown? This book is a great guide!
  • Another great resource is social media! There are so many bloggers, and  people on Facebook, Instagram, TikTok, YouTube, etc. who are professionals! You can find IBCLCs/LCs as well as other specialties such as Ots, PTs, Dieticians, etc. A few of my favorite Instagram accounts related to breastfeeding/pumping are: @the.breastfeedingmama, @thepostpartumnurse, @themilknest, @thebetterboob, @bemybreastfriend, and @lalactation

If you have any questions, please reach out! I love sharing what I’ve learned!

Until next time ❤

*last updated 1/22/24