Fathers are so important. They are essential and make such a big impact on their children. According to data from the U.S. Census Bureau about 1 in 4 children live without a father in the home. This translates to nearly 25% of all children in the United States experiencing fatherlessness. The U.S. Department of Justice states that approximately 85% of youths in prison come from fatherless homes. These statistics are an obvious reminder of what a crucial role fathers play in shaping their children’s lives.

The presence of a father adds depth, humor, and vibrancy to a child’s life. As a mother, I have come to deeply appreciate the unique things that my husband, as a father, brings to our daughter’s world. It’s the little things—the silly faces, the tickle fights, and the spontaneous adventures—that make her eyes light up with pure joy. Psalm 127:3 says: “Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward.” Our children are truly a gift from God, and fathers play an instrumental role in nurturing their hearts and shaping their character.

As women, it can be easy to be overly critical of our husbands and their parenting styles. I know I can be quick to judge when he’s playing a bit too rough, pushed nap time while I was gone, didn’t wipe her messy face or dressed her in a mismatched outfit as were walking out the door. When I thought about these examples, I felt so convicted. I was being so critical! My husband wasn’t doing anything “wrong.” These things aren’t a huge deal! It’s so important to remind myself of the bigger picture – he’s present, loves her and is pouring into her.

Although our society would say otherwise, men and women are different. The Lord made us different on purpose. Our roles as husband and wife are different, as well as our roles as Mom and Dad. This isn’t true across the board, but generally mothers tend to be more nurturing, care more about daily routines like nap time, are more talkative, match outfits or put hair in pigtails better, and maybe even multitask better. These qualities are irreplaceable. You know what else is irreplaceable? Dads who play and rough house, teach problem solving skills, encourage independence, are role models for their sons and show their daughters how they should be treated – or even something as silly as the way they “neigh” when reading a book about horses.

So, stop being critical of how your husband parents. I’m talking to myself too! Men and women are different as are fathers and mothers, and it’s okay. Let us embrace the messy moments, the bed-head hair, and the pushed nap times or whatever it is that irks you. These imperfections prove a father’s willingness to dive into hands on parenting. It’s in these seemingly small moments that deep bonds are formed, and memories are made. Choose gratitude and contentment, knowing that their love and dedication shape our children’s lives in ways we never could ourselves as moms. I think we should foster more moments where our husbands can truly be dads with their kids. Maybe this means we run away for a few hours or maybe they run away for a few hours. Quality time like this is important.

Today is a day where we celebrate and appreciate the fathers in our lives. They bring color, humor, and love to our children’s world. Instead of being overly critical, let’s choose gratitude and contentment, knowing that their love and dedication shape our children’s lives in ways we sometimes can’t fully comprehend. As we honor the fathers who strive to be the best they can be, let’s remember Proverbs 23:24: “The father of the righteous will greatly rejoice; he who fathers a wise son will be glad in him.” We need to bless and uplift the fathers who walk in integrity, as they leave a legacy for generations to come.

Thanks for reading! I hope you found it encouraging.

Until next time ❤